Marriage is like two precious metals combined together to form a stronger, more resilient and inseparable new creation. Each metal is complete on its own but bonded together can withstand the pressure and resistance of life. Likewise, marriage is not about two incomplete people looking for someone to complete them, but rather it’s about individuals who are complete in Christ that creates a bond that gives God glory. Men and women can live in harmony when they follow God’s purpose for their lives. It’s when we don’t have an understanding of God’s purpose for marriage that many marriages fail. We tend to make assumptions and fantasies of our ideal version of marriage versus what God’s motivation for marriage is. God’s word will provide the secrets and insight to a great marriage. Whether you’re single or married, you can have a great future when you are aligned to God’s vision of relationships..

Vision is the destination. Motivation is the transportation.

1. God’s Message

Throughout scripture, God clarifies that marriage is a direct parallel of how His son Jesus loves the church, and how we as followers of Christ are called to first love Him, and carry that same selfless, sacrificial, and holy love towards our spouse. Aligning with Christ means being God-centered, not self-centered, in everything we do. God calls us to use our relationships, endeavors, and daily routines as reflections of His promise. A God-centered marriage is a parallel to the message of the Gospel. Following God’s word, just like marriage, can be hard work that is worth it.

2. God’s Master Plan

Whether or not we are always aware of it, God has a plan. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, ‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.  In seasons of singleness, in relationships, in loss, in pain, in uncertainty, we can trust that God is working all things together for our good. We move forward with faithful expectation that God’s plan is always better than our own.

As individuals we reflect God’s image, and as our stories move forward in the context of marriage, God’s master plan also moves forward. God chose marriage as a powerful parallel to the message of the Gospel. As two imperfect people forgive and grow daily, we see a picture of Jesus’ pursuit, sacrifice , and love for his bridegroom, the church.  As we are purified by accepting Jesus’ love for us by faith, so too can the embracing of a loving partner, bring about holiness in our hearts. It is not our job to make each other holy, however learning how to love the way Jesus does, can motivate all of us to lead and live holy lives together.